"Yes," she replies, "and he is very excited."
I smile and thank Mrs. Bottman for her good wishes.
Cape Elizabeth is a lovely vacation spot on the east coast of Maine. Three years ago, we rented a house there for summer vacation.
We are not however, going there this weekend.
Nicholas loves to travel. His wanderlust is an unusual interest for a child diagnosed with Prader Willi Syndrome. Typically, our children thrive in very structured environments. They need routines and schedules to help minimize the stress of change. Unscheduled surprises and long trips can cause great anxiety for some children diagnosed with PWS.
If it were up to Nick, he would spend the entire year traveling around the world, provided of course, that our accommodations include a gas fireplace and a garage.
This makes planning vacations a little tricky since I need to be sure to book a place that has at least one of the above-mentioned amenities.
Like many special needs familes, our lifestyle is a hectic one. It is loaded with therapies, doctor appointments, hospital stays and meetings. In an effort to periodically diffuse our family stress level, we try to plan a couple getaways a year depending upon our finances.
We have traveled to places like New Hampshire, Cape Cod and coastal Maine. Nicholas fondly remembers them all. He can remember every excruciating detail, of every property, we have ever rented. In fact, he has created his own special names for each of these properties. In New Hampshire it was "the green house". Our visit to Cape Cod was in "the vanilla house" and the Maine house was dubbed by my travel-loving tot as "Cape Lizbet".
Nicholas will ask me every day if we can visit one of these homes.
Since he asks me so frequently, my standard stock answer has become...
"Soon! We will visit very soon!"
Unfortunately, the word "soon" is meaningless to Nicholas. It is an abstract concept that he does not understand. So, he uses his own positive attitude and a little wishful thinking to interpret the word "soon" to mean, this very weekend.
So, in his school conversations with students and staff, Nicholas explains excitedly how we are going to the vanilla house! When folks ask him when? He answers, "We're going on Friday." I am certain that it is this combination of his wishful thinking and a distorted understanding of time that confuses dear Nick.
I, on the other hand, have become very accustomed to folks telling me to have a good vacation.
At first, I would painstakingly take the time to explain to the confused individual that our next vacation was not scheduled until summer and how sometimes Nicholas gets confused about the concept of time. But after daily greetings and salutations that usually begin with...
"Hey, Mrs. Peters, I understand you are going to the vanilla house?"
I found my convoluted reply to be somewhat futile.
After much creative thinking, I decided to stop correcting these poor misguided souls. I decided it was time to change my need to "correct" and "be precise". Instead of stressing about the silly situation, perhaps it was time to relax and have a little fun with it all.
I now try to enjoy this rather humorous scenario, making a game of trying to anticipate just who the next unsuspecting victim will be? And when the next poor soul approaches to wish me a safe and happy vacation...
I simply smile to myself and say,
Lisa Peters blogs about the adventures of parenthood at www.onalifelessperfect.blogspot.com.
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