The old sneakers were getting pretty beat up and starting to wear thin on the soles, so it was time for us to go to the local children's shoe store in the mall. Buying shoes for Danny has always been a challenge, with him often unwilling to try on more than one pair, and not helpful in standing up, or walking around. We have had more than one temper tantrum in shoe stores in the past, which typically involved a lot of shoe throwing, yelling and nasty stares from other shoppers.
There were some new, cool Star Wars sneakers that I was tempted to look at in his size, but at age 17, they didn't seem very appropriate. I forced myself to put them back on the shelf. We turned to the brand name aisle--Nikes, Converse and Addidas, and with some help from the nice shoe salesman, found a cool pair of white sneakers with the three distinctive black stripes.
For once, Danny seemed seemed pretty enthusiastic about the new shoes in the store, even looking at them in the mirror but after purchasing them, he wanted to wear his old shoes home. He told my husband all about the new shoes, and wore them that night for our neighborhood walk. Although they were still pretty stiff, he wore them the next day to school, and as soon as we pulled up in front of the building where his 1:1 aide was waiting, Danny pointed to them, and said "new shoes, new shoes". The aide admired the Addidas three stripes, and agreed that they did make Danny look pretty grown up and cool.
One step at a time...
Michelle K. Wolf is a parent and non-profit professional. She blogs at www.jewishjournal.com/jews_and_special_needs