"Gee Hon, did you see the lovely earrings they have at the jewelry store in the mall."
"There are so many new books at Barnes and Noble that I'd just love to read."
But over the years, I have learned that this tactic is not an effective one.
I struggled for a long time trying to understand my husband's lack of ability to understand "hints". Was he just being stubborn? Were the items too expensive? Did he need to have his hearing checked?
It wasn't until my son, Weston was diagnosed with ADHD, that I finally learned how to understand Pete.
I am not a doctor but after listening intently to our pediatrician discuss the intricacies of this diagnosis and after researching every book and professional article ever written on the subject, I am now convinced that like my son Weston, my husband, Pete, also suffers from ADHD.
His lack of ability to understand hints and innuendo, his need for constant movement and activity, his love of video and computer games, his impatience, anxiety and impulsivity, all these symptoms now make perfect sense to me, thanks to my eldest son.
It wasn't until last Christmas that I received an official confirmation.
There under the Christmas tree was a large box wrapped with beautiful holiday paper. It was addressed to me. I was stunned, what could it be, I thought to myself? I was so happy that my husband had finally thought of me. He had actually put a lot of effort into wrapping the present, as gifts from my husband usually come in plain white envelopes or wrapped in plastic shopping bags.
Was it a music box, maybe a snow globe, a lovely figurine?
"Nope," my husband said. I would just have to wait.
Christmas morning finally arrived and I opened the present quickly, anxious to see what my unusually thoughtful husband had so carefully selected for me. I ripped off the paper, tore open the box and starred at my present in disbelief as there inside the box sat this....
Lisa Peters writes about family life at www.onalifelessperfect.blogspot.com. Thank you all for reading and supporting us throughout the year.