Saturday, October 2, 2010

I only Hang with my Mole people

 
I did a search on mole people and found that in urban legend, they are the groups of people that live underground in the subway system.


I also found this.....




.....my mole people are much cuter and not quite as shocking....

And them I found him....



Alas my mole person....

I named him Harvey.

And on many days I feel like I have joined him in his little hole.

My life has evolved to a deeper level. After Samantha, copious amounts of small talk, surface-level talk drives me insane.

I no longer do well at parties with people I don't know. Here's how I imagine my conversations.....

"Yes I like to dabble in scrap booking but ever since we adopted our eighth cat, I'm just way too busy."

I imagine myself casually taking the last cheese straw and saying "Yeah, well, my daughter died."

But I 
don't , I don't do this. But these surface level conversations make me crazy.

I want to take things to a deeper level....
let's dig deep, go below the surface, where it is dark and dirty, where it's kind of stinky....where life is real. 

And I love those who go with me. I love my mole people.

On Monday I went back to the job I left four years ago when Samantha got sick. I have been amazed at the people who stop by my desk with tears in their eyes and say, "I am so glad your back but I am so sorry about Samantha. I'm sorry you could
come back because she is no longer here."

It's messy, it's dirty, they don't have to take things to a deeper level but they do. They allow me talk about my pain, my life...the muddy, crappy, poo that unravels when you go a little deeper.

And I am so very appreciative.

I love my mole people. And if you're hangin' with me, congrats, you have received mole person status.

Although you are much prettier than my green buggy friend above.


Let's get dirty.

When not hangin' with her mole people, you can find Heather at Samsmom

13 comments:

  1. I have always been a firm believer in the magic of making mud pies, one of my favorite pastimes. I am with you, mud rules!

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  2. I'm going to carry that image of the mole people with me. Keep being real!

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  3. I tear up every time I think of you and Samantha

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  4. I love this post! It made me giggle and sigh and rejoice for deep digging mole people. Susan Scott calls it "fierce conversations"--making it real. If you and I met at a cocktail party, I would be grateful to talk. Congrats for having such fabulous co-workers!

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  5. I never have liked surface level chit-chat. I mean how much can you really say or hear about the lovely weather...really. I try hard not to overwhelm people with my push to get to substantive conversation, but it seems to me that's how me can best discover ways to help one another...true community.

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