Recently, I've been wondering something that I'm sure many parents wonder - how much do I need to tell any given person who has contact with my son?
I've also been wondering how much to share in my business life - I keep a blog for my business, and I currently neglect a blog about our journey with Asperger's.
I asked the question at a recent workshop I attended, because I really wanted to know - what was the ideal blend of one's personal and professional lives? How much information is too much information? Can I be raw with emotion on my blog and still hope to book jobs? (I do work in a creative field, so there is a little bit more leeway there.)
The answer was - Disclose as much as you feel comfortable with, but be 100% honest with all disclosure.
Part of me really really wants to sit down and write a blog post that says 'This is my son. He's awesome. He has Asperger's.' Part of me wants to print that on a shirt and wear it around. Maybe make a flyer that I can hand to people who tsk tsk us in public.
But part of me is so so scared. Who will judge him? What will it mean to be judged? I can't erase that first impression, but neither can I erase the first impression of a public meltdown. So I wonder if people would react differently if the public meltdown was tempered with some information. What's really happening. Why. That he's not just being a bad kid.
So. 100% honesty. Varying levels of disclosure. I'm test driving it.