A few posts back I talked about how hard it was to not have any sort of diagnosis for my son. How I felt like I walked in the dark. 14 pages changed all that. A switch has been flipped on and there's no going back. We received our neuropsych report and educational testing. We learned so much from it.
The first thing we learned is sort of what I refer to as the "duh" diagnosis. You know the one you know your kid has and it's so painfully obvious that even the most dense person sees it. I'm talking about ADHD.
If you know my son you know that he has the attention span of a fruit fly at school and in many other diverse situations (my apologies if I offended fruit fly fans). I first worried about it in preschool. It was so obvious to me. His inability to focus on group time, busy areas, etc. When I brought it up time and time again the concern was brushed aside by teachers. I was told "he doesn't have it, see look at that kid, they obviously have it Marvin is fine.". I hate being told my son was fine when he obviously wasn't. In fact I have come to hate the words fine and Marvin in the same sentence. When I talked with the Drs and told them that he was "fine" and his teachers didn't think he had it they were a little burned about it. While I agree that ADHD is way over diagnosed I also know that Marvin's brain suffered from drugs in utero and severe trauma. He DOES HAVE ADHD. In fact it is a significant amount of it. Significant enough that he will require medication.
Marvin has also been diagnosed with dysgraphia. Dysgraphia is a specific learning disability that affects how easily children acquire written language and how well they use written language to express their thoughts. Dysgraphia is a Greek word. The base word graph refers both to the hand’s function in writing and to the letters formed by the hand. The prefix dys indicates that there is impairment. Graph refers to producing letter forms by hand. The suffix ia refers to having a condition. Thus, dysgraphia is the condition of impaired letter writing by hand, that is, disabled handwriting and sometimes spelling. Impaired handwriting can interfere with learning to spell words in writing.
This gets more fun now. Due to Shaken Baby Syndrome and abuses committed by bio mom he has right brain hemisphere dysfunction. Can you say that five times fast? This has given my son problems with visual spatial processing which may cause future math issues. He also has significant difficulty with visual learning skills. The impact of his abuse lives on and on. Sigh.
Plus we still have PTSD and attachment issues. Can't forget to bring those to the party.
But in all new and a little scary stuff we had other news on his educational testing. Marvin has a really high IQ, cognitive flexibility, and his executive functioning was very high as well. It seems that he was very high in most of the testings. So he is a smart little cookie.
Children like Marvin are sometimes referred to as twice exceptional children. Children who are off the charts in both directions. But to me he is uniquely Marvin.
Goofy, fun loving, and caring. A child who one day runs around with shorts on his head proclaiming he is invisible and the next day comes to me and says, "Mama it doesn't make sense. Pouring water on your head and posting it doesn't cure anything. It just makes you look dumb. Mamas and Dadas should tell their kids to study hard, go to school and be good doctors and scientists so they can help cure people who are sick." He is one of a kind. And we are blessed to have him in our lives.