Friday, July 2, 2010

Keeping your Eyes on the Road

The other day I was on a bike ride with some friends. We were climbing Lookout Mountain in Colorado. I was feeling somewhat puny and ready for the climb to be over. I let my eye wander to the two radio towers on top of the mountain; one slightly higher than the other.

"Which one do I focus on?" I said to a friend.

"Focus on?"

"Yeah, which tower is the top? When do I know I'll be done?"

"Heather, you know when you're climbing you don't look at the top. You keep your eyes on the road in front of you."

Right.....eyes on the road in front of you.

Samantha turns four this month. Four....she is no longer a baby. We finally replaced her crib with a hospital-style bed. The baby-jogger I have put her in for years is starting to look a little small and we have an order pending for a wheel chair.

I can still carry her with ease....most of the time but I find myself bracing a little more. My arms get a little tired and her legs hang over my lap when I try to cuddle.

Because she going to be four.

Looking to the next four years is a little daunting. Samantha will only get bigger, god-willing, but also meaning that our house will require lifts, we will need a van or a bigger vehicle. Moving a child who does not move herself will only become more complex.

But in keeping with my biking advice,  I've decided not to look at the top of that hill. To keep my eyes on the road in front of me and focus on the joy of a four year old. Maybe I'll even find a spot or two where I can coast.

Four?!!! Holy Cow.

Heather Schichtel is a mom, writer and advocate to her daughter Samantha. You can follow their story at Samsmom


  1. If you need someone to pedal while you coast, I'm your gal.

  2. Thanks! I needed this post today. Our 4 year old Sylvie just keeps getting bigger and more beautiful. At some point, we will no longer be able to feed her with her sitting on our lap. Tell me more about the hospital bed--where did you get it and why did you change from the crib? What are the benefits. I like the biking metaphor. We need to keep on biking on rotation at a time. Thanks again.

  3. Hi Heather: That is such good advice. My son is 16 and I often worry about our ability to cope as time goes on.
    I am going to list your blog on BLOOM:
    And hope you will visit.
    Your Courage Classic sounds marvelous! Thanks! Louise