Now imagine the same scene but the light is on. You can see everything clearly. You find the couch, sit down, and manage not to come home looking like you and the furniture got into a street brawl. When the lights are on you can see what is there and how to work with it.
I would use the above description a lot back in my teacher days. Especially when a child with special needs came my way. I would encourage parents to seek answers so I could be the best teacher I could be for them. Some colleges would argue that in looking for answers a child could become nothing more than a label or a diagnosis. I would argue back that this would give me the tools that I needed to empower the child and help them succeed.
But what if you are not the teacher? What if you are the parent? For Cary Lynn her diagnoses were always pretty black and white. There haven't been many surprises with them. I don't define her by her needs, but work with her daily to be her best little person. The lights are on and I don't run into too much furniture.
With Marvin it is so different. All I got was "love him and he will be honky dorey". Yay! Nobody told me what meth can do. Nobody told me about Shaken Baby Syndrome. Nobody told me that taking an 18 month old out of a secure environment can wreak havoc and leave scars that last a lifetime. Nobody told me that even if you are a violently abused infant that you don't outgrow and forget these things.
Don't get me wrong. I did the research. I sat with his social worker, my notebook of statistics and facts. She was impressed. I really did my work. Or so I thought. When Marvin came to us the lights in my house went out. I tripped over so much furniture and banged my shins over and over again.
What has made it super hard is that years later I am still in the dark. I find myself frustrated at times. People saying he has this, or wait no he doesn't! As I was talking to his therapist the other week about it he pointed out that kids like Marvin slip through the cracks so often because they can present pretty normally to the outside world. And he can. He is also a master chameleon, blending into his environment. He had to be. When he was little his survival depended on it.
Plus I am part of a new generation. Raising a child who was born meth addicted. I talk with other meth moms a lot and together we find solace. We see our kids and the things they struggle with. As one mom put it, "I tried to kill the best part of myself and nearly did. When I see her struggle part of me breaks every time." We break for our kids.
It also becomes hard explaining to the world around me about his needs. Everyone wants him to be "fine". Heck, I want him to be fine! I would love to live in a world without specialty doctors, therapies, and a home routine that is so heavily structured. I become frustrated at times just wishing for him to "snap out of it".
But that isn't going to happen. Marvin can't help the meth or the abuse he endured. He is always going to have needs. Needs that others may not always understand or see but they are there. He may also always live in the shades of grey when it comes to diagnoses as well. Or he will fall into broad categories like traumatic brain injury and ADHD.
Amy Fields is a mother to two special needs children and two demanding cats! You can follow her on Many Kinds of Familes
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