Friday, July 18, 2014

A Natural

Wil just turned 18 on the 14th. We decided the thing to do was throw a big party; go into his adulthood with a celebration, and a gathering of the village that has gotten him thus far. We gathered 125 of his closest friends, and that is only the tip of the iceberg in terms of how many people he knows, how many people have touched him, and how many people he's touched.

Jenn, Wil's 1:1 aide from 3-8 grade, not only came, but brought a copy of a piece he'd written in 8th grade. I share it with you now:


I have two hundred reasons why I don't want to go to college. It will take fifty-five hours to tell you the whole story. I'm going to give you three reasons. 1. I will miss my friends and family. 2. I'm sick of working so hard. 3. I want to skip college and be a dad.

I have been working for nine years straight. So after my thirteen years of schoolwork then I will be free.

Instead of going to college I want to have 3 kids. Alexander Mikey and Zackary. I will be a stay home dad. My kids can't go to the store with me until they are at least two. I don't want to deal with all the crying. They will be home schooled until they are three because the school doesn't have pre-twos. I would say to my wife that we have to have the same answers. If they have sleepovers then she would say yes and I would say yes. My kids will have everything. If my kids want to sleep in the same room then sometimes I will do it. Every fall we have to go to high school football games. I will love my kids.

I really am not going to college. I have other stuff I want to do.

Sandra, one of his preschool aides, came. She had put together a photo album of pictures from the two years he was in her class. Most were copies of pictures I'd already seen, since the preschool did an excellent job of creating memory books for us each year. But there was one, this one, that tugged, particularly, on my heart. The cock of the head, the sweetness, the effort it took him to coordinate his hands and eyes to do what he chose to do during free play: feed a baby. That's Wil all day long. Always has been, always will be.

Wil just spent a week volunteering with the 4-year-old class of Vacation Bible School. I got a message from a friend that said, "Please tell Wil thank you for being so patient and kind with my grandson. He's a natural with young children."

I've come to believe that whenever we're a "natural" at something, it's because we have past-life experience with it. Probably many past lives. Perhaps all of them. Lifetime after lifetime of practice that leads to wisdom, that leads to being a "natural." I truly believe Wil is going to find a way to be the "dad" he's always wanted to be.

Luckily for the world, it won't be just 2-3 kids he parents, but classroom after classroom of kids, year after year, until one day he's an old man, long retired from his "job," and arriving at a birthday party of one of his former students. He'll have with him a hug, a memory or two, and a place in that person's heart, forever.

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Carrie is a parent and advocate of a child with special needs and even more special gifts. She blogs at where this is pretty much her favorite topic. Carrie’s book, WIL OF GOD: Embracing the Relentless Love of a Special Child, is available in print on Amazon and all e-readers.


  1. And, when there is something we are 'natural' at, we ought to be more like Wil and embrace it with no excuses or judgments. Love, love, love.


    Is accepting as fact that God created the heavens and the earth strictly a faith alone concept? Is it not logical that an intelligent designer had to be involved in the creation process?

    FAITH: Genesis 1:1 In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.

    I accept the Genesis account to be true because of faith. Why? Because I trust the Bible to be the infallible word of God.

    LOGIC: Romans 1:20 For since the creation of the world His invisible attributes, His eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly seen , being understood through what has been made, so that they are without excuse.

    I accept the words in Romans 1:20 not only by faith, but by logic as well. I can see clearly God's hand in creation.


    If you were shopping for a house and you walked into a housing development you had never been to before, and saw a house you wanted to purchase, would you not have to to accept the existence of that house by faith and logic?

    FAITH: Since you did not see anyone build the house, you would have to accept by faith it was built by an intelligent designer. How many years do you think it would take for wood, brick and mortar to evolve into a house?

    Logic: Since the house is in your sight, is it not logical that someone built the house?

    Everyone agrees that billions of years would not be long enough for brick, wood, and mortar to evolve into a house.

    To believe the theory of evolution you not only have to contradict logic, but you have to forsake reason.

    Those who deny that God exists and is the creator of all things, are truly without excuse!

    THE DEFINITION OF FAITH IN THE THEORY OF EVOLUTION: Faith in evolution is to believe that, nothing accidentally created the heavens and the earth over billions of years.

    (All Scripture quotes from:NEW AMERICAN STANDARD BIBLE)